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 ಮದುವೆ ಎನ್ನುವುದು ಪ್ರತಿಯೊಬ್ಬ ಹೆಣ್ಣು /ಗಂಡಿನ ಜೀವನದಲ್ಲಿ ಒಂದು ಸುಂದರವಾದ ಅಧ್ಯಾಯ.ಮೂರುಗಂಟು ಬೆಸೆದು ಏಳುಹೆಜ್ಜೆಯ ನೀಡುವ ಸಮಯ

ಅವನ /ಅವಳ ಕಲ್ಪನೆಯ ಬಾಳಸಂಗಾತಿಗೆ ಕಾಯ,ವಾಚ,ಮನಸಾ ಇವತ್ತಿನಿಂದ ನಾನು ಸಂಪೂಣ೯ವಾಗಿ ನಿನ್ನವಳು /ನಿನ್ನವನು ನಿನ್ನ ಜೀವನದ ಪ್ರತಿಕ್ಷಣ ಕೈ ಹಿಡಿದು ಜೊತೆಯಾಗಿ ನಡೆಯುವೆ ಎಂದು ಪ್ರಮಾಣ ಮಾಡುವ ಸುಮಧುರ ಘಳಿಗೆ.

ಈ ಸಂಭ್ರಮಕ್ಕೆ ನೀವು ಸಾಕ್ಷಿಯಾಗುವ ಮುನ್ನ ಸ್ವಲ್ಪ ಯೋಚಿಸಿ.

ಬಾಳ ಸಂಗಾತಿಯ ಆಯ್ಕೆ : ನಿಮ್ಮ ಬಾಳ ಸಂಗಾತಿಯಾಗಬಲ್ಲವರು, ನಿಮ್ಮ ಭಾವನೆಗಳಿಗೆ ಸ್ಪಂದಿಸುವರು.ನಿಮ್ಮ ಮನಸ್ಥಿತಿಯನ್ನು ಅರಿಯಬಲ್ಲರು.ನಿಮ್ಮ ಕುಟುಂಬದ ಬಗ್ಗೆ ಗೌರವ ಹೊಂದಿರುವರು,ನಿಮ್ಮ ಭವಿಷ್ಯದ ಕನಸಿನ ಹಕ್ಕಿಗೆ ರೆಕ್ಕೆಯಾಗಬಲ್ಲರು, ಜೀವನವೀಡಿ ನಿಮ್ಮ ಬೇಕು-ಬೇಡಗಳನ್ನು ಅಥೈ೯ಸಿಕೊಂಡು ನಿಮ್ಮೊಡನೆ ಹೊಂದಿಕೊಂಡು ಬದುಕಬಲ್ಲರು ಜೀವನಪೂತಿ೯ ಅವರೊಂದಿಗೆ ಸುಖ,ಸಂತೋಷ,ನೆಮ್ಮದಿಯಿಂದ ಬದುಕಬಲ್ಲೆ ಎಂದಾದರೆ ಮುಂದುವರೆಯಿರಿ.

ಕೌಟುಂಬಿಕ ಹಿನ್ನಲೆ : ಮದುವೆ ಎನ್ನುವುದು ಎರಡು ಮನಸುಗಳ ಜೊತೆಗೆ ಎರಡು ಮನೆತನಗಳಿಗೆ ಸಂಬಂಧಿಸಿದವಿಷಯ ಆಗಿರುವುದರಿಂದ ಪರಸ್ಪರ ಇಬ್ಬರು ತಮ್ಮ ಸಂಗಾತಿಯ ಕುಟುಂಬದ ಬಗ್ಗೆ ತಿಳಿಯುವುದು ಅಗತ್ಯವಾಗಿದೆ. ಅವರ ಹಿನ್ನಲೆ, ಆಥಿ೯ಕ ಸ್ಥಿತಿ, ಸಾಮಾಜಿಕ ಹೊಂದಾಣಿಕೆ,

ಸಂಸ್ಕೃತಿ-ಸಂಪ್ರದಾಯ, ಎರಡು ಮನೆಯವರ ಅಭಿಪ್ರಾಯ ತಿಳಿದುಕೊಂಡು ಅನುಮತಿಯೊಂದಿಗೆ ಮುಂದುವರೆಯುವುದು ಉತ್ತಮ.

ಮಾನಸಿಕ ಸಿದ್ಧತೆ : ಮದುವೆಯ ಬಗ್ಗೆ ನಿಮಗಿರುವ ಸಂದೇಹಗಳನ್ನು ಬಗೆಹರಿಸಿಕೊಂಡು,ತೊಂದರೆ-ತೊಡಕುಗಳನ್ನು ನಿವಾರಿಸಿಕೊಂಡು ನೀವು ಉಳಿದ ಜೀವನದ ಅದ್ಭುತ ಕ್ಷಣಗಳನ್ನು ಸಂಗಾತಿಯೊಂದಿಗೆ ಕಳೆಯಲು ಬಯಸುತ್ತೀರಿ ಎಂದಾದರೆ ಹೊಸ ಜೀವದೊಂದಿಗೆ ಹೊಸ ಜೀವನ ಪ್ರಾರಂಭಿಸಲು ಸಂಪೂಣ೯ವಾಗಿ ತಯಾರಾಗಿದ್ದರೆ, ನೀವು ಮುಂದುವರೆಯಬಹುದು.

ಮುಖ್ಯವಾಗಿ : ವೃದ್ಧಾಪ್ಯದವರೆಗೆ ಸಹಜೀವನ ನಡೆಸಲು ಸರಿಯಾದ ವ್ಯಕ್ತಿಯನ್ನು ಕಂಡುಕೊಂಡಿದ್ದೆ ಆದರೆ ನಿಮ್ಮ ಜೀವನದ ಹಾದಿ ಸುಗಮವಾಗಿ ಸಾಗುತ್ತದೆ. ಮದುವೆ ಏಕ ಪಕ್ಷೀಯ ವಿಷಯವಲ್ಲ.

ಇಬ್ಬರ ಸಂಬಂಧ ಕೊನೆವರೆಗೂ ಗಟ್ಟಿಯಾಗಿ ಇರುತ್ತದೆ ಎಂದಾದರೆ ಮದುವೆಯಾಗಿ.

 "ಯಾವ ಸಿದ್ಧತೆಯು ಇಲ್ಲದೆ ವೈವಾಹಿಕ ಬದುಕಿಗೆ ಅಡಿ ಇಡುವ ಕೆಲವರು ಆರಂಭದಲ್ಲಿಯೇ ಸಾಕಷ್ಟು ಎಡವಟ್ಟುಗಳನ್ನು ಮಾಡಿಕೊಂಡು ಪರಿತಪಿಸುತ್ತಾರೆ.ವಿವಾಹ ಜೀವನದ ಜವಾಬ್ದಾರಿ,ಮಹತ್ವ,ತನ್ನ ಪಾತ್ರ ಮತ್ತು ಹೊಂದಾಣಿಕೆ ಕುರಿತು ಸ್ಪಷ್ಟ ಚಿತ್ರಣ ಇಟ್ಟುಕೊಂಡು ಮದುವೆಯಾಗುವುದು ಉತ್ತಮ.ಇದೆಲ್ಲವನ್ನು ಸಾಧ್ಯವಾಗಿಸುವುದೆ ನಮ್ಮ ಗುರಿ ಮತ್ತು ಆಶಯ.

"ನಿಮ್ಮೊಂದಿಗೆ ನಾವೀದ್ದೆವೆ ಇಂದೆ ನೊಂದಾಯಿಸಿಕೊಳ್ಳಿ ,ಅತ್ಯುತ್ತಮ ಸಂಗಾತಿಯನ್ನು ಆಯ್ಕೆ ಮಾಡಿಕೊಳ್ಳಿರಿ".

ನೀವು ಮತ್ತು ನಿಮ್ಮ ಸಂಗಾತಿಯು ಎಂದಿಗೂ ಸಂತೋಷದಿಂದ ಬದುಕದಿರಬಹುದು ಎಂದು ಊಹಿಸುವುದು ಕಷ್ಟವಾಗುತ್ತದೆ. ಆದರೆ ನಿಮ್ಮ ಜೀವನವನ್ನು ಇನ್ನೊಬ್ಬ ವ್ಯಕ್ತಿಯೊಂದಿಗೆ ಹಂಚಿಕೊಳ್ಳುವುದು ಒಂದು ಸವಾಲಾಗಿರಬಹುದು, ವಿಶೇಷವಾಗಿ ಸಂಬಂಧಗಳಲ್ಲಿ ನಿಮಗೆ ಹೆಚ್ಚಿನ ಅನುಭವವಿಲ್ಲದಿದ್ದರೆ. ಮದುವೆಗಳು ಕೆಲಸ, ಬದ್ಧತೆ ಮತ್ತು ಪ್ರೀತಿಯನ್ನು ತೆಗೆದುಕೊಳ್ಳುತ್ತವೆ, ಆದರೆ ಅವರಿಗೆ ನಿಜವಾಗಿಯೂ ಸಂತೋಷ ಮತ್ತು ಯಶಸ್ವಿಯಾಗಲು ಗೌರವವೂ ಬೇಕು.

ಪ್ರೀತಿ ಮತ್ತು ಗೌರವವನ್ನು ಆಧರಿಸಿದ ವಿವಾಹವು ಕೇವಲ ಸಂಭವಿಸುವುದಿಲ್ಲ. ಇಬ್ಬರೂ ಸಂಗಾತಿಗಳು ತಮ್ಮ ಪಾಲನ್ನು ಮಾಡಬೇಕು. ನಿಮ್ಮ ಮದುವೆ ಯಶಸ್ವಿಯಾಗಲು ಪ್ರತಿ ದಿನ ಕೆಲಸ ಮಾಡಲು ಕೆಲವು ಪ್ರಮುಖ ಕೀಲಿಗಳನ್ನು ಕೆಳಗೆ ನೀಡಲಾಗಿದೆ.

ಸ್ಪಷ್ಟವಾಗಿ ಮತ್ತು ಆಗಾಗ್ಗೆ ಸಂವಹನ ಮಾಡಿ

ನಿಮ್ಮ ಸಂಗಾತಿಯೊಂದಿಗೆ ಮಾತನಾಡುವುದು ನಿಮ್ಮ ದಾಂಪತ್ಯವನ್ನು ಆರೋಗ್ಯಕರವಾಗಿ ಮತ್ತು ಯಶಸ್ವಿಯಾಗಿಡಲು ಒಂದು ಉತ್ತಮ ಮಾರ್ಗವಾಗಿದೆ. ನೀವು ಏನನ್ನು ಅನುಭವಿಸುತ್ತೀರಿ ಎಂಬುದರ ಬಗ್ಗೆ ಪ್ರಾಮಾಣಿಕವಾಗಿರಿ, ಆದರೆ ನೀವು ಸಂವಹನ ಮಾಡುವಾಗ ದಯೆ ಮತ್ತು ಗೌರವದಿಂದಿರಿ. ಉತ್ತಮ ಸಂವಹನದ ಭಾಗವೆಂದರೆ ಉತ್ತಮ ಕೇಳುಗನಾಗಿರುವುದು ಮತ್ತು ನಿಮ್ಮ ಸಂಗಾತಿಯು ನಿಮ್ಮಿಂದ ಏನನ್ನು ಬಯಸುತ್ತಾರೆ ಮತ್ತು ಏನು ಬೇಕು ಎಂಬುದನ್ನು ಅರ್ಥಮಾಡಿಕೊಳ್ಳಲು ಸಮಯ ತೆಗೆದುಕೊಳ್ಳುವುದು. ಆಗಾಗ್ಗೆ ಮಾತನಾಡುವ ಮೂಲಕ ಸಂವಹನ ಮಾರ್ಗಗಳನ್ನು ತೆರೆದಿಡಿ, ಮತ್ತು ಬಿಲ್ಲುಗಳು ಮತ್ತು ಮಕ್ಕಳಂತಹ ವಿಷಯಗಳ ಬಗ್ಗೆ ಮಾತ್ರವಲ್ಲ. ನಿಮ್ಮ ಆಲೋಚನೆಗಳು ಮತ್ತು ಭಾವನೆಗಳನ್ನು ಹಂಚಿಕೊಳ್ಳಿ.

ನಿಮ್ಮ ಸಂಗಾತಿಗೆ ನಿಮ್ಮ ಜೀವನದಲ್ಲಿ ಅವನನ್ನು ಅಥವಾ ಅವಳನ್ನು ಹೊಂದಿದ್ದಕ್ಕಾಗಿ ನೀವು ಕೃತಜ್ಞರಾಗಿರುವಿರಿ ಎಂದು ಹೇಳಿ

ಪರಸ್ಪರ, ನಿಮ್ಮ ಸಂಬಂಧ, ನಿಮ್ಮ ಕುಟುಂಬ ಮತ್ತು ನಿಮ್ಮ ಜೀವನವನ್ನು ಒಟ್ಟಿಗೆ ಪ್ರಶಂಸಿಸಿ. ನಿಮ್ಮ ಸಂಗಾತಿ ಭೋಜನವನ್ನು ಅಡುಗೆ ಮಾಡುವಾಗ, ಮಕ್ಕಳಿಗೆ ಅವರ ಮನೆಕೆಲಸಕ್ಕೆ ಸಹಾಯ ಮಾಡುವಾಗ ಅಥವಾ ಕಿರಾಣಿ ಶಾಪಿಂಗ್ ಮಾಡುವಾಗ ಕೃತಜ್ಞತೆಯನ್ನು ತೋರಿಸಿ. ಆ ದಿನ ನೀವು ಮೆಚ್ಚಿದ ಕನಿಷ್ಠ ಒಂದು ವಿಷಯವನ್ನು ಒಬ್ಬರಿಗೊಬ್ಬರು ಹೇಳಲು ಪ್ರತಿ ಸಂಜೆ ಕೆಲವು ನಿಮಿಷಗಳನ್ನು ತೆಗೆದುಕೊಳ್ಳಲು ಇದು ಸಹಾಯ ಮಾಡಬಹುದು.

ನಿಮ್ಮಿಬ್ಬರಿಗೆ ಜೋಡಿಯಾಗಿ ಸಮಯ ನೀಡಿ

ಕೆಲಸ ಮತ್ತು ಕುಟುಂಬದ ಜವಾಬ್ದಾರಿಗಳೊಂದಿಗೆ, ಪ್ರಣಯದ ಅಂಶವನ್ನು ಕಳೆದುಕೊಳ್ಳುವುದು ಸುಲಭವಾಗುತ್ತದೆ. ಹೊರಗೆ ಹೋಗಲು ಅಥವಾ ಮನೆಯಲ್ಲಿಯೇ ಇರಲು ವಿಶೇಷ ದಿನಾಂಕಗಳನ್ನು ಯೋಜಿಸಿ. ನೀವು ಮಕ್ಕಳನ್ನು ಹೊಂದಿದ್ದರೆ, ನೀವು ವಿಶ್ರಾಂತಿ, ಮಾತನಾಡುವಾಗ ಮತ್ತು ಪರಸ್ಪರರ ಕಂಪನಿಯನ್ನು ಆನಂದಿಸುತ್ತಿರುವಾಗ ಅವರನ್ನು ಆಟದ ದಿನಾಂಕದಂದು ಕಳುಹಿಸಿ.

ಕೆಲವು ವೈಯಕ್ತಿಕ ಸಮಯಕ್ಕಾಗಿ ಯೋಜನೆ ಮಾಡಿ

ಏಕಾಂಗಿ ಸಮಯವು ಒಂದೆರಡು ಸಮಯದಷ್ಟೇ ಮುಖ್ಯವಾಗಿದೆ. ಪ್ರತಿಯೊಬ್ಬರಿಗೂ ರೀಚಾರ್ಜ್ ಮಾಡಲು, ಯೋಚಿಸಲು ಮತ್ತು ವೈಯಕ್ತಿಕ ಹಿತಾಸಕ್ತಿಗಳನ್ನು ಆನಂದಿಸಲು ಸಮಯ ಬೇಕಾಗುತ್ತದೆ. ನೀವು ಮದುವೆಯಾದಾಗ ಆ ಸಮಯವು ಹೆಚ್ಚಾಗಿ ಕಳೆದುಹೋಗುತ್ತದೆ, ವಿಶೇಷವಾಗಿ ನಿಮಗೆ ಮಕ್ಕಳಿದ್ದರೆ. ಸ್ನೇಹಿತರೊಂದಿಗೆ ಹೊರಗೆ ಹೋಗಿ, ತರಗತಿ ತೆಗೆದುಕೊಳ್ಳಿ, ಅಥವಾ ಸ್ವಯಂಸೇವಕ ಕೆಲಸ ಮಾಡಿ, ನೀವು ಏನನ್ನು ಶ್ರೀಮಂತಗೊಳಿಸುತ್ತೀರಿ ಎಂದು ಕಂಡುಕೊಳ್ಳಿ. ನಿಮ್ಮ ಸಂಗಾತಿಯೊಂದಿಗೆ ನೀವು ಮತ್ತೆ ಸೇರಿಕೊಂಡಾಗ, ನೀವು ಒಬ್ಬರನ್ನೊಬ್ಬರು ಹೆಚ್ಚು ಪ್ರಶಂಸಿಸುತ್ತೀರಿ.

ಒಪ್ಪದಿರುವುದು ಸರಿ ಎಂಬುದನ್ನು ಅರ್ಥಮಾಡಿಕೊಳ್ಳಿ

ನೀವು ಎಲ್ಲವನ್ನೂ ಒಪ್ಪುವುದಿಲ್ಲ, ಆದರೆ ಭಿನ್ನಾಭಿಪ್ರಾಯಗಳ ಸಮಯದಲ್ಲಿ ನ್ಯಾಯಯುತವಾಗಿ ಮತ್ತು ಗೌರವಯುತವಾಗಿರುವುದು ಮುಖ್ಯ. ನಿಮ್ಮ ಸಂಗಾತಿಯ ದೃಷ್ಟಿಕೋನವನ್ನು ಆಲಿಸಿ. ಕೋಪಗೊಳ್ಳದಿರಲು ಪ್ರಯತ್ನಿಸಿ ಮತ್ತು ನಿಮ್ಮನ್ನು ತುಂಬಾ ನಿರಾಶೆಗೊಳಿಸಬೇಡಿ. ನಿಮಗೆ ಬೇಕಾದರೆ ದೂರ ಹೋಗಿ ಮತ್ತು ಶಾಂತವಾಗಿರಿ, ನಂತರ ನೀವಿಬ್ಬರೂ ಉತ್ತಮ ಮನಸ್ಸಿನ ಚೌಕಟ್ಟಿನಲ್ಲಿರುವಾಗ ಸಮಸ್ಯೆಯನ್ನು ಮತ್ತೊಮ್ಮೆ ಚರ್ಚಿಸಿ. ಸಮಸ್ಯೆಗಳ ಮೇಲೆ ರಾಜಿ ಮಾಡಿಕೊಳ್ಳಿ ಇದರಿಂದ ನೀವಿಬ್ಬರೂ ಸ್ವಲ್ಪ ಕೊಡಿ.

ವಿಶ್ವಾಸವನ್ನು ಬೆಳೆಸಿಕೊಳ್ಳಿ

ಮದುವೆ ಚಿಕಿತ್ಸಕ ಮತ್ತು ಸಂಶೋಧಕ ಜಾನ್ ಗಾಟ್ಮನ್, ತಿರಸ್ಕಾರ, ರಕ್ಷಣಾತ್ಮಕತೆ ಮತ್ತು ಕಲ್ಲು ತೂರಾಟ ಮದುವೆಗೆ ಗಂಭೀರ ಬೆದರಿಕೆ ಎಂದು ಕಂಡುಕೊಂಡಿದ್ದಾರೆ. ಈ ವಿನಾಶಕಾರಿ ಚಟುವಟಿಕೆಗಳಲ್ಲಿ ದಂಪತಿಗಳು ಹೆಚ್ಚು ತೊಡಗಿಸಿಕೊಂಡರೆ, ಅವರು ವಿಚ್ಛೇದನ ಪಡೆಯುವ ಸಾಧ್ಯತೆಯಿದೆ. ಅವರ ದಶಕಗಳ ಸಂಶೋಧನೆ ಮತ್ತು ದಂಪತಿಗಳೊಂದಿಗೆ ಕೆಲಸ ಮಾಡುವುದು ಸಂಗಾತಿಗಳು ಜಗಳವಾಡದೆ ಹೇಗೆ ಹೋರಾಡಬೇಕು ಮತ್ತು ಅವರ ಕ್ರಿಯೆಗಳ ಜವಾಬ್ದಾರಿಯನ್ನು ಹೊತ್ತುಕೊಳ್ಳುತ್ತಾರೆ ಎಂದು ತೋರಿಸಿದ್ದಾರೆ. ಜಗಳದ ನಂತರ ಮತ್ತು ಸಂಬಂಧವನ್ನು ಸರಿಪಡಿಸುವ ಪರಸ್ಪರರ ಇಚ್ಛೆಗೆ ಅವರು ಶೀಘ್ರವಾಗಿ ಪ್ರತಿಕ್ರಿಯಿಸುವ ಸಾಧ್ಯತೆಯಿದೆ.

ಕ್ಷಮಿಸಲು ಕಲಿಯಿರಿ

ಎಲ್ಲರೂ ತಪ್ಪುಗಳನ್ನು ಮಾಡುತ್ತಾರೆ. ನಿಮ್ಮ ಸಂಗಾತಿಯು ನಿಮ್ಮ ಭಾವನೆಗಳನ್ನು ಘಾಸಿಗೊಳಿಸಬಹುದು ಅಥವಾ ನಿಮಗೆ ಅಸಮಾಧಾನ ಉಂಟುಮಾಡುವಂತಹದ್ದನ್ನು ಮಾಡಬಹುದು ಮತ್ತು ಅದು ನಿಮಗೆ ಕೋಪವನ್ನು ಉಂಟುಮಾಡಬಹುದು. ಆದರೆ ನಿಮ್ಮ ಭಾವನೆಗಳನ್ನು ನಿಭಾಯಿಸುವುದು ಮುಖ್ಯ, ಅವರನ್ನು ಹೋಗಲು ಬಿಡಿ ಮತ್ತು ಮುಂದುವರಿಯಿರಿ. ಭೂತಕಾಲವನ್ನು ಮುಂದುವರಿಸಬೇಡಿ.

ನಿಮ್ಮ ಸಂಗಾತಿ, ನಿಮ್ಮ ಕುಟುಂಬ ಮತ್ತು ನೀವು ಒಟ್ಟಿಗೆ ನಿರ್ಮಿಸಿದ ಜೀವನಕ್ಕೆ ಬದ್ಧರಾಗಿರಲು ಮರೆಯದಿರಿ. ಭಾವನಾತ್ಮಕವಾಗಿ ಮತ್ತು ದೈನಂದಿನ ರೀತಿಯಲ್ಲಿ ಪರಸ್ಪರ ಬೆಂಬಲಿಸಿ. ನೀವು, ನಿಮ್ಮ ಸಂಗಾತಿ ಮತ್ತು ನಿಮ್ಮ ಸಂಬಂಧವು ಕಾಲಾನಂತರದಲ್ಲಿ ಬೆಳೆಯಬಹುದು ಮತ್ತು ಬದಲಾಗಬಹುದು, ಆದರೆ ಈ ವಿಚಾರಗಳು ನಿಮ್ಮ ದಾಂಪತ್ಯವು ವರ್ಷಗಳಲ್ಲಿ ಯಶಸ್ವಿಯಾಗಿರಲು ಸಹಾಯ ಮಾಡುತ್ತದೆ.

ನಮ್ಮ ಹಿಂದೂ ವಿವಾಹ ಪದ್ಧತಿಯಲ್ಲಿ ನಾವು ಹಲವಾರು ವಿಧಿ ವಿಧಾನಗಳನ್ನು ಅನುಸರಿಸುತ್ತೇವೆ. ಯಾವುದೇ ಧರ್ಮ ಜಾತಿಯೇ ಇರಲಿ ಒಂದೊಂದು ಪಂಗಡದವರು ಒಂದೊಂದು ವಿಧವಾದ ವೈವಾಹಿಕ ವಿಧಾನಗಳನ್ನು ಅನುಸರಿಸುತ್ತಾರೆ. ಮದುವೆಯ ಈ ಪವಿತ್ರ ಬಂಧನದಲ್ಲಿ ಪ್ರತಿಯೊಂದು ಶಾಸ್ತ್ರ ಸಂಪ್ರದಾಯಗಳಿಗೂ ಅದರದ್ದೇ ಆದ ಮೌಲ್ಯವಿದ್ದು ಈ ಮೌಲ್ಯವು ವಿವಾಹದ ಪ್ರಮುಖ ಸೂತ್ರವಾಗಿದೆ.

ವಿವಾಹವೆಂದರೆ ಬರಿಯ ಗಂಡು ಹೆಣ್ಣಿನ ಪವಿತ್ರ ಬಂಧನ ಮಾತ್ರವಲ್ಲ ಎರಡು ಕುಟುಂಬಗಳ ಮಿಲನವಾಗಿದೆ. ವಿವಾಹದಿಂದಾಗಿ ಪರಸ್ಪರ ಕುಟುಂಬಗಳು ಒಂದಾಗುತ್ತವೆ ಮತ್ತು ಎರಡೂ ಕುಟುಂಬಗಳಲ್ಲಿ ಸಾಮರಸ್ಯ ಉಂಟಾಗುತ್ತದೆ. ಮದುವೆ ಏಳೇಳು ಜನ್ಮಗಳ ಅನುಬಂಧ, ವಧು ಮತ್ತು ವರನ ಸಂಬಂಧವನ್ನು ದೇವರೇ ನಿರ್ಧರಿಸುತ್ತಾನೆ ಎನ್ನುವ ನಂಬಿಕೆ ಕೂಡ ಇದೆ. ವರ ಮತ್ತು ವಧು ಸಂಪೂರ್ಣವಾಗಿ ಒಪ್ಪಿಗೆ ಸೂಚಿಸಿದ ಬಳಿಕ ಮದುವೆ ಕಾರ್ಯಗಳು ನಡೆಯುತ್ತದೆ. ಮದುವೆಯು ಮುಗಿದು ಗ್ರಹಸ್ಥಾಶ್ರಮಕ್ಕೆ ಕಾಲಿಡುವ ವರ ಮತ್ತು ಮಧುವಿಗೆ ಹೊಸ ಜೀವನ ಆರಂಭಿಸುವ ತವಕ. ಅದರಲ್ಲೂ ವಧು ಮಾತ್ರ ಹುಟ್ಟಿನಿಂದ ಬೆಳೆದು ಬಂದ ಮನೆ, ತಂದೆ-ತಾಯಿ, ಸೋದರ-ಸೋದರಿಯನ್ನು ಬಿಟ್ಟು ಬಂದು, ಗಂಡನ ಮನೆಯಲ್ಲಿ ಹೊಸ ಜೀವನವನ್ನು ಆರಂಭಿಸುತ್ತಾಳೆ. ಇನ್ನು ಮದುವೆಯಾಗುವ ಗಂಡು ತನ್ನ ಮನೆ ಮನವನ್ನು ತುಂಬುವ ಒಡತಿಯ ಬಗ್ಗೆ ಸಾಕಷ್ಟು ಕನಸು ಕಾಣುತ್ತಾನೆ.

Dussehra, which symbolizes the victory of good over evil, is an Indian festival celebrated in the 7th month of the Hindu Lunar Calendar. It got its name from the two Sanskrit words Dasha(ten) and Hara(defeat). This festival is celebrated all over India in a very grand manner. This year it starts on October 7th and ends on October 15th. In South India, particularly in the state of Karnataka, the city of Mysore Palace is illuminated by lights, cultural activities, and so on. People from all over India gather in large numbers to watch this joyous festival.

Dussehra is considered to be an auspicious day for Indians. Since it symbolizes the triumph of good over evil, any new venture started on this day is bound to be successful. So it is considered to be auspicious to start important activities like weddings, purchase of gold and new business, and so on. It brings bountiful joy and prosperity.

October is a rather beautiful time of year if you live in the northern hemisphere. It’s the time of year that the color of leaves begins to change into a magnificent array of hues. The world-famous Indian political and spiritual leader Mahatma Gandhi was born on October 2, 1869. His worldwide renown is attributed to the nonviolent way in which he resisted the colonial British rule of India. October has just one birthstone, but with this dazzling stone who needs another? October’s birthstone is the Opal, which was valued by the Ancient Romans as the most priceless of all. The opal comes in a myriad of striking colors that often seem to swirl together and is a symbol of faithfulness, purity, and hope. October is a pretty fantastic time of the year. Those born in October can be born under one of two very different star signs. If you’re born before October 23rd, then you have the sign of Libra. Those born on October 23rd or later have the sign of Scorpio. Libras are said to value harmony and diplomacy and are said to be both intelligent and kind. Scorpios are quite different, valuing trust and honesty above other things, as well as being quite intense yet imaginative people.

Karwa Chauth is a festival dedicated to the beautiful bond of marriage. It commemorates the unconditional love and support that holds the marriage together. It is observed on the fourth day after the full moon or Poornima in the month of Kartik, according to the Hindu lunar calendar. The rituals of Karva Chauth are observed by married women for the long life of their husbands. On this day, they worship Lord Shiva and Lord Ganesha and complete the fast by sighting and making offerings to the moon.

Diwali / Deepawali is one of India's biggest festivals. The word 'Deepawali' means rows of lighted lamps. It is a Festival of Lights and Hindus celebrate it with joy. During this festival, people light up their houses and shops with Diyas (Small cup-shaped oil lamps made of baked clay). They worship Lord Ganesha for welfare and prosperity and Goddess Lakshmi for wealth and wisdom.

This festival is celebrated in the Hindu Month of Kartika masa which falls sometime during October or November. It is celebrated to mark the return of Lord Rama after 14 years of exile and his victory over the Demon Ravana. In many parts of India, Deepawali is celebrated for five consecutive days. Hindus regard it as a celebration of life and use the occasion to strengthen relationships. In some parts of India, it marks the beginning of a new year. People clean and decorate their houses before the festival. They do colorful Rangoli - artwork on floors.

ಮದುವೆಯ ಸಿದ್ಧತೆಯನ್ನು ಉಂಗುರ ಬದಲಾವಣೆ ಇಲ್ಲವೇ ನಿಶ್ಚಿತಾರ್ಥದ ಮೂಲಕ ನಡೆಸಲಾಗುತ್ತದೆ.

ಹಿಂದೂ ಪುರೋಹಿತರು ಮತ್ತು ಕುಟುಂಬದವರ ಸಮ್ಮುಖದಲ್ಲಿ ಈ ಕಾರ್ಯಕ್ರಮವನ್ನು ನಡೆಸಲಾಗುತ್ತದೆ. ಮದುವೆಯ ಕೆಲವು ದಿನಗಳ ಮುನ್ನ ಈ ಕಾರ್ಯಕ್ರಮವನ್ನು ನಡೆಸಲಾಗುತ್ತದೆ. ಅಂತೆಯೇ ವಿವಾಹದ ದಿನಾಂಕವನ್ನು ಈ ಸಂದರ್ಭದಲ್ಲಿಯೇ ನಿಗದಿ ಪಡಿಸಲಾಗುತ್ತದೆ. ಎರಡೂ ಮನೆಯವರು ಸಿಹಿ ಮತ್ತು ಬಟ್ಟೆ ಹಾಗೂ ಆಭರಣಗಳನ್ನು ಇಲ್ಲಿ ವಿನಿಮಯ ಮಾಡುತ್ತಾರೆ. ವಿವಾಹದ ದಿನವನ್ನು ಈ ಸಮಯದಲ್ಲಿ ಗೊತ್ತುಪಡಿಸಲಾಗುತ್ತದೆ ಮತ್ತು ಹಿರಿಯರು ಹುಡುಗ ಹುಡುಗಿಯನ್ನು ಆಶೀರ್ವದಿಸುತ್ತಾರೆ.

Tulsi Vivah / Tulasi Kalyana is a Hindu festival in which a ceremonial marriage of the Tulsi (Holy Basil) with the god Shaligram or Amla branch (personifications of Vishnu) is held. The Tulsi wedding signifies the end of the monsoon and the beginning of the wedding season in Hinduism. Offer Haldi and Kumkum to Lord Vishnu and Tulsi Maa. Then offer the chunri, shringar samagri (Kumkum n Kajal) to Goddess Tulsi and Mauli (sacred thread tied on the wrist by priests) and janeu (Janewara -a sacred thread worn by a Brahmin) to Lord Vishnu. Offer one of the garlands to Tulsi after touching Lord Vishnu's idol/image with it. Then offer the other garland to Lord Vishnu after touching the Tulsi plant with it.

Like every year, this year, too, Makar Sankranti will fall on January 14. On this day, Sun enters the house of Saturn (Capricorn or Makar) and stays for a month in this house. During this period, the Sun forgets its anger towards Saturn, thus signifying the importance of relationships in life. Like every year, this year, too, Makar Sankranti will fall on January 14. On this day, Sun enters the house of Saturn (Capricorn or Makar) and stays for a month in this house. During this period, the Sun forgets its anger towards Saturn, thus signifying the importance of relationships in life.   On this day, Sun enters the house of Saturn (Capricorn or Makar) and stays for a month in this house. During this period, the Sun forgets its anger towards Saturn, thus signifying the importance of relationships in life. Sankranti is celebrated for 3 days.

• Day 1 – Maghi (preceded by Lohri), Bhogi Panduga.
• Day 2 – Makara Sankranti, Pongal, Pedda Panduga, Uttarayana, Magh Bihu.
• Day 3 – Mattu Pongal, Kanuma Panduga.

Mahashivratri, “The Great Night of Shiva” is the most significant event in India’s spiritual calendar.

The fourteenth day of every lunar month or the day before the new moon is known as Shivratri. Among all the twelve Shivratris that occur in a calendar year, Maha Shivratri, the one that occurs in February-March is of the most spiritual significance. On this night, the northern hemisphere of the planet is positioned in such a way that there is a natural upsurge of energy in a human being. This is a day when nature is pushing one towards one’s spiritual peak. It is to make use of this, that in this tradition, we established a certain festival which is nightlong. To allow this natural upsurge of energies to find their way, one of the fundamentals of this nightlong festival is to ensure that you remain awake with your spine vertical throughout the night.

Arranged marriage is a type of marital union where the bride and groom are primarily selected by individuals other than the couple themselves, particularly by family members such as the parents. In some cultures, a professional matchmaker may be used to find a spouse for a young person.  

Arranged marriages serve some functions in the Indian community: 

(1) help maintain the social satisfaction system in society.

(2) give parents control, over family members.

(3) enhance the chances to preserve and continue the ancestral lineage.

(4) provides an opportunity to strengthen the family bondage. 

Arranged marriages provide equal stature, financial stability, cultural identity, and the same opinions among partners and families, so, there is very less chance of disputes. The only downside to this is that partners do not know each other nor do they love each other before the marriage; well, most of the time.

The Indian subcontinent has historically been home to a wide variety of wedding systems. Some were unique to the region, such as Swayamvara (which was rooted in the Historical Hindu Religion and had a strong hold in popular culture because it was the procedure used by Rama and Sita). In a swayamvara, the girl's parents broadcast the intent of the girl to marry and invited all interested men to be present in a wedding hall on a specific date and time. 55% of marriages that occur in the world today are arranged marriages. The rate of arranged marriages in India is 90%. In an arranged marriage, the man is usually 4.5 years older than the woman in the formed relationship The practice of arranged marriages began as a way of uniting and maintaining upper-caste families.   

Arranged marriages serve six functions in the Indian community: 

(1) help maintain the social satisfaction system in society; 

(2) give parents control, over family members; 

(3) enhance the chances to preserve and continue the ancestral lineage; 

(4) provides an opportunity to strengthen the families.

Arranged marriages provide equal stature, financial stability, cultural identity, and the same opinions among partners and families, so, there is very less chance of disputes. The only downside to this is that partners do not know each other nor do they love each other before the marriage; well, most of the time.

Emerging out of one of the oldest cultures of India, Tamil Brahmin weddings emphasize the celebration of heritage and customs over displays of grandeur. A kaleidoscopic guide to different regional cultures, spanning rituals, customs, fashion, and more.

Wedding Functions

Panda Kaal Muhurtham
Once the wedding is finalized, the bride and groom’s families offer their prayers to their deity and seek blessings for a successful marriage and the protection of the couple. Mostly held a day before the wedding, it is attended by close family members and generally held at a temple or their homes. 

 Sumangali Prarthana
Sumangalis are women who have led happy, fulfilled married lives. Married older relatives and friends of the bride take part in this prayer ceremony and invoke the blessings of their late female ancestors for the bride’s happy married life. The same ritual is performed at the groom’s home to bless the new bride joining their family.

 Vrutham
Generally held on the morning of the day before the wedding, the Vrutham signifies the groom’s transition from bachelorhood to being a married man. A sacred thread stained yellow with turmeric is tied around his wrist to ward off evil energy. A similar ritual is done for the bride. 

 Nichayathartham
The formal engagement ceremony in Tamil Weddings sees the groom and his family arriving at the bride’s home with gifts for her such as a saree and jewelry. She is seated and aarti is performed, and the sumangalis (married women) tie grains, betel nuts, turmeric, and coconuts in the pallu of her saree. A similar ritual is done for the groom, where he is presented with special clothes as well. The couple then changes into their new clothes and does the ring ceremony. 

Gauri Puja

Once dressed, this ritual is done by the bride to Goddess Gauri, who represents purity and virtue. An idol is placed on a plate with rice and Kumkum, and the bride prays and seeks blessings from her for a happy marriage. 

Kashi Yatra
An ancient custom rooted in history, the Kashi yatra is one of the most delightful rituals of a Tamil wedding. Once the groom’s family reaches the venue, the groom grabs an umbrella, a walking stick, and food to head to Kashi (Banaras) to renounce worldly pleasures and dedicate his life to god. As everyone looks on, the father of the bride then convinces him to choose a life of domestic bliss instead of being a hermit and promises to give his daughter’s hand to him. 

Pada Puja
The groom arrives at the mandap, where the father of the bride washes his feet with holy water, sandalwood, milk, and Kumkum. 

Kanyadanam
A ritual common to every culture in the world, the Kanyadanam marks the official giving away ceremony of the bride by her parents to the groom. He is made to sit on the floor where his feet are washed by the bride’s father, who sits opposite him with the bride on his lap. He supports her hands holding a coconut which is then offered to the groom, as her mother pours holy water over it. With this gesture, they officially hand over their daughter for life, asking him to cherish her and protect her. The bride and groom’s hands are tied with a sacred thread to seal their union. 

Muhurtham
After the Kanyadanam, the groom’s parents gift the bride a nine-yard silk saree to welcome her into their family, which is draped around her shoulders while the groom applies sindoor on her hair parting. The bride then changes into the new saree and returns for a few more rituals. The thaali (South Indian equivalent of Mangalasutra) is then blessed by the priest and tied around her neck by the groom. The first two knots of the Thaali are put in by the groom, while the third and final ones are put in by the groom’s sister. 

Sapthapadi
The bride and the groom hold hands and take seven steps around the holy fire while the priest chants Vedic mantras in Sapthapadi, one of the most important rituals in a Hindu marriage. The groom then holds the bride’s left toe as she steps over a grindstone, symbolizing the solidity of their union.

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The Telugu wedding ceremony is the traditional wedding ceremony of the Telugu people in India and those Telugu people who reside in other parts of the world. Telugu Weddings are now a mix of classic events like Pellikuturu, Pellikoduku, Mangala Snaanam, etc., and modern introductions like Mehndi and Sangeet.

Telugu Wedding ceremonies are vibrant, detailed & colorful festivities full of meaning and tradition. Like all Hindu wedding ceremonies, the events aim to culminate with the physical, spiritual, and emotional union of the couple. There is also a heavy emphasis on the new bond between the two families and the celebration of their journey together.

Weddings in the state of Karnataka are mostly simple affairs, focused mainly on traditional rituals and less pomp and show. Kannadigas prefer to adhere to age-old traditions when it comes to weddings. The rituals vary slightly in different regions and among various communities of Karnataka, but the basic structure of the entire event remains the same. Kannada weddings are relatively short and share many rituals with neighboring states like Maharashtra and Andhra Pradesh. Kannada weddings generally take place during the daytime and are comparatively short 1-2 days events. Given below are the wedding rituals of a Kannada wedding.

Pre-Wedding Rituals:

Nischitartha

 Parents of the groom visit the bride’s place and offer her a saree, blouse piece, coconut and sweets. The bride’s parents also visit the groom’s house to gift him dhoti, coconut, fruits and sweets. The date of the marriage is generally decided by the priest during this event.

Naandi

 A few days before the wedding, the Naandi ceremony is performed in both the bride and groom’s places. It is a puja performed by the family priest to ensure that the wedding ceremony goes without any hitches or problems. A traditional copper pot or Kalash filled with holy water is placed with a coconut on top, and this marks the beginning of the wedding celebrations. 

 Kaashi Yaatre 

This is a fun-filled ritual when the groom pretends to get angry that no one is searching for a suitable bride for him. He threatens his family that he will set out for a pilgrimage to Kashi carrying a walking stick, a dhoti, an umbrella, a fan, and edibles like a coconut along with some rice. As he is about to leave the house, the groom’s maternal uncle stops him and convinces him not to leave and puts forward the girl that had been chosen for him.  The groom relents hearing this and decides to come back home to get married to his bride. The groom dresses up in a white veshti or dhoti worn in typical south Indian style around the waist. The wedding attire of the bride is highly ornamental. She wears a traditional 9 yards long Naavari Saree. They wear green glass bangles along with the saree and are similar to Maharashtrian brides in this respect.  

Var Puja 

In Hindu traditions, the groom is considered to be the reincarnation of Lord Vishnu. In that respect, he is worshipped by the bride’s party. He is accompanied to the wedding mandap by his future father-in-law and is asked to a seat of prominence. His feet are then washed by the bride’s father and a puja is performed in his honor. He is also presented with a set of silk dhoti and scarf known as pitambar. He is to take part in the wedding rituals wearing the clothes presented to him by the bride’s parents. 

Dhara Muhurtha 

The bride’s right hand is placed on the groom’s right hand and coconut along with a betel leaf is placed on top of the joined hands. The bride’s parents shower their blessings and approval of this union by pouring holy water, preferably from the River Ganges known as dhara on top of the couple’s joined hands.

Saptapadi 

A nuptial knot is tied between the ends of the bride and groom’s attires signifying an unfailing bond established between two souls. The couple then circumambulates the sacred fire seven times; this ritual is termed Saptapadi. Through these circumambulations, the bride follows the groom and together they utter the seven sacred vows of marriage. After the Saptapadi the couple sits down, with the bride sitting on the groom’s left, and the groom ties the mangalasutra around the bride’s neck assisted by five Sumangalis or married women. This officially concludes the wedding, and the couple gets up and goes over to seek blessings from the elders of both families.

An inviting food jugalbandhi with pristine and polished banana leaves, the crackling Dolby effect of the very pompous nadaswarams, festoons overhead of mango leaves that never fade, Mamas and Mamis clad in Panchakachams and Madisars scurrying around like beautiful Gandharvas. 

VANTHANAM 

The bride’s parents wait outside the marriage hall with coconuts, flowers, and Thamboola with two conical structures called ‘Paruppu Thengai Urundai” (made of Dhal, jaggery, coconut) to receive the groom and his family for the wedding.

VIRATHAM

The main part of the wedding starts with ‘Viratham’. This ceremony is performed by both families to invoke their family deities and ancestors. A ‘Kappu’ is tied around the wrists of both the bride and the groom, and the yellow thread should not be untied until the wedding is over. The Kaapu is supposed to ward off evil spirits by acting as protective armor for both the bride and the groom. From hereon, the groom prepares himself for his new phase of life as a ‘Grihastha’.

JAANAVASAM

Or the ‘Maapilai Azhaippu’. A pooja ceremony happens at a temple nearby, and then the groom is taken on a procession to the mantapa to accept the bride. The procession these days is in a car, but in the olden days, the procession used to be (sometimes) on elephants (gasp). The Januvasam is to ‘show’ the groom to the public, and allow them to voice their objections if any, to the marriage.

NICHAYATHARTHAM

Or the engagement ceremony. Once the groom reaches the venue, a formal engagement ceremony takes place. A Ganapathi Pooja is performed, and a final formal agreement is made between the bride’s and the groom’s family.

KASI YATRA

After the recitation of Vedic verses, the groom, all well clad in Panchakancham, starts his journey towards Kasi (Varanasi) to expand his knowledge of Brahman. The groom sets off towards the gate, with his slippers, a bamboo fan, and an umbrella. The bride’s father stops him on the way, convinces him of the importance of being a ‘Grihastha’, and also promises to give him his daughter as his companion to face the trials and tribulations in life.

EXCHANGE OF GARLANDS / MAALAI MATRUTHAL

The Maternal uncles lift the Bride and Groom respectively to their shoulder levels enabling for easy exchange of garlands. While thrice they exchange, fun is also added making garlanding one another difficult. The couple is then made to sit in an oonjal (swing), lots of songs are sung, and the bride and the groom are served with paalikai (a mixture of banana, milk, and sugar) by women from both families. The women also prepare rice balls with turmeric and circle them around the couple. The rice balls are thrown in all four directions to ward off evil spirits. The groom is then asked to hold the right hand of the bride and lead her to the marriage dais. 

KANYATHANAM 

 The bride is made to wear the Madisar or the ‘Koorai Pudavai’ and is made to sit on her father’s lap facing eastward. The groom faces westward and ties the mangalyam around the neck of the bride. “Getti melam”, the bride’s uncle would say and this signals the nadaswarams and thavil artists to speed their tempo up. A total of 3 knots are tied around the bride’s neck. The first knot tied by the husband formalizes their union, and the second and the third knots are tied by the groom’s sister to symbolize the welcoming of the bride into her family. Sapthapadi The bride and the groom now hold hands and pray for their eternal happiness. The groom also helps the bride to take seven steps around the sacred fire, and this ritual is called the ‘Sapthapadi’. This is the most important part of the marriage ceremony, and only after the Sapthapadi is the bride and groom ‘officially’ married.

The southern state of India, Karnataka, is known for its multifarious cultural traditions which are highlighted at every event, especially when it comes to wedding ceremonies. Kannada Gowda weddings are such ceremonies that help you identify how important are the ritualistic traditions associated with the Gowda community. Even though a Hindu wedding ceremony, the Kannada Gowda wedding customs, and traditions differ as per the bride and groom’s religions. 

Naandi: Naandi ritual is usually performed in all Hindu weddings but with different names. However, in Kannada Gowda weddings, this ritual is performed before the actual wedding day, and this is performed to make sure that the wedding happens without any obstacles. 

Havan: Havan is a special ritual that takes place in the respective houses of the bride and groom. This ritual is mostly performed just before the couple gets ready for marriage. The elders of the families participate in this ritual. 

Wearing Wedding Attire: Wearing wedding attire is a special ritual performed at Kannada Gowda weddings. During this ritual, the bride gets draped with a Navari saree along with beautiful glass bangles. The groom will also get dressed during this ritual, and he will be wearing a Dhoti along with Angavastram and a Petha. 

Kashi Yatra: The groom after reaching the venue will pretend as if he is not interested in marriage and at the request of his father-in-law will agree. Then Mantapa puja, Var puja, Dhare Herdu, Maangalya Dhaarane n Sapthapadi is followed. 

Post-wedding rituals: One of the most emotional rituals in Kannada Gowda weddings is Vidaai. This happens once all the wedding rituals are finished. Here, the bride says goodbye to her parents and family members. Before she leaves, she seeks blessings from all the elders in her family. 

Gruha Pravesha: The couple reaches the groom’s house from the wedding venue, and the groom’s family welcomes them. An idol of Lord Ganesha will be placed at the entrance where the couple offers prayers. The groom’s mother then performs aarti, and the bride enters the house by kicking a bowl filled with rice.

A typical Lingayat community wedding starts with an engagement ceremony and ends with a reception and the in-betweens are all about meaningful ceremonies.

The traditional engagement ceremony for this community sees the bride partaking in coconuts, sweets, and a traditional wedding ceremony saree from the groom’s family.

More conservative Veera Shaiva or Lingayat are strict about the matching of horoscopes. If the horoscopes predict a fateful union a mere formality the exchange of gifts proceeds. Horoscope matches, as done with the Lingayat community, are also seen in many other traditional wedding ceremonies - from the Marathi wedding ceremonies to the Tamil wedding rituals.

The groom doesn’t leave empty-handed, having accepted sweets and a wedding dhoti from the bride’s side of the family, and the wedding date is fixed. No Lingayat community wedding ceremony is complete without a Pooja to have a smooth celebration. 

The Nandi Pooja, as it is called, is an event for the bride and groom to show their devotion to each other and Lord Shiva, the Lingayat community’s deity. 

The Kashi Yatra is a time for relatives and friends of the couple to regale themselves. It's role-playing time for the Lingayat community groom he pretends that he has not found a suitable bride and will take a pilgrimage to Kashi. The bride’s uncle then shows a photograph of her to the groom, convincing him to stay back. Filled with jokes, the ceremony is nevertheless marked by traditional South Indian food and is a kick-off for the actual marriage ceremony. The attire is usually silk, a saree for the bride and a Veshti and kurta for the groom and adorned with traditional jewelry. The groom awaits the bride at the mandap and after the bride, escorted by her uncle arrives - the actual wedding takes place. Separated by a white cloth, the couple is anxious to take a peek at each other. The couple exchange holy ritual marriage vows and the groom’s Angavastram is tied to the bride’s saree. The couple circles the holy ritual fire seven times reciting the seven special sacred mantras. The groom then holds a Lingayat Mangalasutra around the bride’s neck, which is tied by five married women themselves adorned with Mangalasutra. Imagine the feeling of happiness and anticipation while both the bride and groom wait to lay their eyes on each other! The guests feast after a tiresome and eventful wedding ceremony, and it’s time for the bride to take leave. This is called the Kanyadanam, it is marked by the father of the bride, who places the bride’s right hand in the groom’s right hand. Shedding tears, it’s time for the emotional bride to take flight from her parent’s abode.

Like most Indian weddings, the Coorg wedding, or Mangala as it is called in the Kodava language, is a fun-filled, colorful affair. It is a joyous celebration with much feasting and dancing, eagerly awaited by relatives and friends. It is also an occasion to meet, exchange news and gossip and look for matches for prospective brides and grooms; an occasion that allows women an opportunity to show off their saris and jewelry. Prayers are offered to ancestors at the sacred lamp and the wedding ceremony is guided by elders whose blessings are sought. These simple but meaningful acts and some unusual rituals make the Coorg wedding rather unique.

The traditional Coorg wedding these days is a two-day affair that sometimes spills over to the early hours of the third morning (if the dancers at the Ganga puja dance through the night!). The day preceding the wedding is called the Uur kuuduva or Karik muripa day when preparations are made for the wedding day. The important ceremonies on the wedding day are the Muurtha - when the bride and groom are blessed by all those assembled, the Sammanda kodupa - when the bride is given rights in her husband’s house and the Ganga puja - when the bride is welcomed and accepted as a member of the groom’s family. In the past, the Karik muripa and Muurtha ceremonies were celebrated separately and concurrently for the bride and the groom in their respective ainmanes (ancestral houses of okkas or patrilineal clans) where they were blessed by their relatives and friends. Such a muurtha that is held separately for the bride or the groom is colloquially called a ‘single’ muurtha. The groom would then go to his bride’s house in a procession with a small group of his relatives and friends for the dampathi muurtha (common or ‘double’ muurtha for the bride and groom together) after which the bride was given the Sammanda rights. After that, the groom would bring his bride to his home in a procession, and the Ganga puja would be held there. This practice is followed occasionally even today.

Rituals Before the Wedding

DEVARA SAMARADHANE: The marriage rituals are initiated through “ Punyaha Vachana” which includes pujas conducted to seek the blessings of various deities like Ganapathi, Varuna, Navagraha, and the family deity (Kula Devata). The “Naandi” deity who represents the family’s ancestors, is worshipped to seek their blessings. 

HOOVILYA: The Mother Goddess is invoked through girls and women and her blessings are sought by propitiating them with food, gifts, and other accessories. 

VARAPOOJE: Varapooje is usually performed a day before the wedding ceremony to welcome the bridegroom and his family As the Bridegroom arrives at the venue of the wedding with his family, friends, and the priest, they are welcomed by sumangalis by the Vedic rituals.  Wedding invitations are exchanged; the details of the auspicious Lagna and muhurtham in which the bride will be given away are read out. Then, clothes, silverware, and other gifts are exchanged.

RITUALS CONDUCTED ON THE WEDDING DAY

SAMAVARTANE: The bridegroom performs the samavartane fire ritual (homa)to mark his entry into grihastha ashrama from brahmacharya. He seeks the blessings of Prajapati, Pavana, Agni, and Surya. Henceforth he is called a snathaka and will perform his duties to devas, Pitris, and society along with his wife.

GAURI POOJE: While the Bridegroom performs the Samavartana Homa and is taken for Kashi Yatra, the Bride performs “Gowri Pooja” under the guidance of elderly women according to tradition. Parvati, Shiva’s consort, obtained Shiva after long and arduous Tapas. The bride prays to the Divine Mother in her avatar as Gauri so that she may remain devoted to her husband and undaunted by trials and tribulations. 

Reddy's is a community located and rooted in the Andhra Pradesh state of India. The Traditional Reddy’s Marriage represents the South Indian culture and some important ceremonies. The reddy marriage signifies spirituality, peace, and love and the ceremonies are quite interestingly different from other weddings. The first step is to match the horoscopes and fix the wedding date if the couple is identified as a perfect match for each other.

Patrika :

This is the very first ceremony or ritual which is performed at the Reddy wedding. This is the ceremony that takes place when two families finalize the marriage after the horoscopes and stars of the couple match. The marriage date and the contract are written on the Patrika and are placed on a yellow piece of cloth. Betel nuts, turmeric, and betel leaves are also placed keeping in mind the tradition. Priests chant mantras to complete this ceremony when the parents of the couple exchange the Patrika.

Nisachaitharthum

The engagement ceremony at Reddy weddings is known as Nisachaitharthum. This is the first bond or relation between the bride and groom where they legally get engaged while exchanging rings. The beautiful brass lamp also known as ‘Nila villaku is lit and the rings are exchanged. The elders of both families shower blessings on the bride and the groom.

Vara puja

Vara puja is the welcome of the groom and his family to the wedding venue. This is a custom in which, the groom and his family are welcomed with gifts, new clothes, and different food dishes. The bridegrooms are honored in this ceremony in which the bride’s father washes the groom’s feet with pious milk and wipes them off.

Paindlipilla or haldi paspu

Popularly known as Haldi in different wedding ceremonies, this is a colorful and fun-filled ceremony for Reddy's wedding. This ceremony has amazing importance in making the bride shine! During this ceremony, the family members of the bride apply turmeric paste on the bride’s body. Soon after the ceremony, the bride goes for a purification bath. This ceremony and application of multi-benefit turmeric will make the bride glow throughout the wedding ceremonies!

Vivaaham

This ceremony is the welcome and entry of the groom and the commencement of the wedding. It is such an eye catchy and melodious feel when the bride and groom enter the Kalyana mandapa (wedding hall). The venue is decorated with beautiful flowers and decor items and while the melodious tunes of nadaswarams and thayli are played, the bridegroom and family enter the venue. The bride’s family welcomes the groom’s family while washing his feet and performing aarti.
At the entrance of the mandapa, young girls stand with flowers, oil lamps, turmeric, and rice. The groom sits on the right side of the mandapa and the bride settles on the left side. When the bride and groom enter the mandap, the wedding starts. The priest chants mantras and people settle down to witness this beautiful ceremony.

Muhurtham

This is a beautiful ritual when the groom ties a thali to the bride’s neck. Thali is a traditional necklace of yellow thread decorated with a golden pendant. The bride and groom stand facing each other and perform this ritual. This ritual is performed at the correct muhurtham or time decided by the astrologer or priest. ‘Muhurtham’ means the correct time to perform a ritual that has great significance during weddings. When the groom ties the thali, the loud noise of dhol (drums) and cheers of people are heard.

Kanyadaanam

Kanyadaanam means daan or donation of the daughter. This is a very emotional and beautiful ritual in which, the bride’s father gives away her daughter to the groom. This is an exciting ceremony in which, the bride’s uncle brings the bride in a bamboo basket to the mandap. The bride and groom are not allowed to see each other and thus, are separated by a curtain. The groom thrice assures the father of the bride that he will take care of his daughter and will consider her the better half. In any situation, he will be by her side, and with this promise; the bride’s father gives his daughter to the groom.

Sapthapadi

This ritual leads to the 7 pheras or rounds, the bride and groom take a round of fire to complete the marriage. The 7 rounds have high importance in Reddy marriages where the groom and bride hold hands and move around the fire while making seven rounds. This ceremony signifies that the bride and groom will live forever and will hold hands forever in health and sickness.

Sthalipaakam

In this ceremony, the feet and fingers of the bride are loaded with silver toe rings. When the groom bends down and puts on the toe rings, it is signified that he accepts the bride as her wife forever. For preventing evil eyes, the bride also wears a black thread in her hand. This is when the wedding ceremony gets completed.

Muhurtham is a ceremony wherein an auspicious period of the day is chosen for the marriage. It is mostly the period evening hours i.e.7-11 pm. The Telugu marriage rites are Hindu.

Pendlikoothuru
Pendlikoothuru takes place a day or two before the marriage. In this ceremony, the boy and the girl are smeared with oil and turmeric. They take bath and each wears new clothes. The girl wears a saree and the boy would wear a dhoti. Also, the girl is asked to wear flowers on her hair and bangles. All the assembled married women are presented with betel leaves, sweets, flowers, and bangles. This gifting is done to ensure the married ladies bless the to-be married girl and wishes her to become a part of their group.

Snathakam
Snathakam is an important ritual that takes place a few hours before the actual Muhurtham. It involves only the bridegroom as he has to wear a silver thread on his body.

Kashi Yatra
Kashi Yatra is a unique ceremony which has the boy saying at the end of the thread ceremony that he has discarded worldly pleasures and going to Kashi. This strange but very relevant ceremony is called "KashiYatra" or the journey to Kashi. To stop him from the symbolic departure to Kashi, the girl's brother requests him to stay on. For this, he also offers his sister in marriage.

Mangala Snaanam
Mangala Snaanam or the auspicious bath takes place on the wedding day, at dawn. This bath is taken by both the bride and the groom individually. Such a bath implies the purification of one's physical self before proceeding with the marriage rituals.

Aarti
The Aarti ceremony is peculiar to Indian marriages. It features in almost all marriages, and maybe in a different form everywhere. It has the family members applying the groom and the girl with oil and doing aarti around them. It is done for several reasons, one could be to safeguard the couple from bad planetary influences, bad omens, and other evils.

Gauri Pooja
After having the bath, the bride worships the goddess Gauri. Gauri is the Mother Durga who symbolizes divine power, energy, woman power, and fertility.

Ganesh Pooja
When the bride is performing the Gauri Puja, the groom at the same time performs the Ganesha puja. Ganesha puja is considered auspicious for any important occasion as it ensures the success of the work at hand.

Marriage Rituals

Kanyadaanam
The Telugu marriage ceremony is striking as well as fabulous. It has the girl's mama or the maternal uncle carrying the bride in a bamboo basket to the mandap (wedding place). The bride is usually dressed in a bright-colored saree and precious jewelry. As per custom, the girl would carry some betel leaves, betel nuts, a coconut, a sandalwood stick, and a red pumpkin. The marriage is held in such a manner that a curtain is placed between the bride and groom so that they do not see each other till the wedding is completed.
At the end of the marriage, the father and mother of the bride clean the boy's feet with water. In a way, it also means that the parents are blessing the daughter with a husband who is as good as God.

Madhuparkam
Madhuparkam would have the boy and the girl wearing a white dhoti and sari respectively, with a red border. The garments are of cotton.

Mangalasutra
The Mangalasutra is generally a golden chain with alternate black beads and chains. It is worn by married women in several communities in India. In the Telugu community, the groom ties the Mangalasutra around the neck of the bride with three knots.

Kanya Daan Akshata
At the end of the Mangalasutra ceremony, the couple put garlands around each other's necks. And all those assembled shower flower petals and rice. This is called Akshata, the offering of uncooked, turmeric-colored rice.

Sapthapadi: Seven Steps (Sapthapadi)
After the marriage, the ends of the garments of the bride and groom are tied together by the priest. The couple encircles the altar in seven steps as they take the seven marriage vows.

After the completion of the seven steps ceremony, they take their seats. The wife now takes her rightful place on the left side of her husband as the marriage is now religiously solemnized in its entirety. The husband garlands the wife and she, in turn, garlands her husband. After this, gruhapravesh, the bride going to the groom's house takes place.

There are five states in Southern India, and all the states have their unique rituals when it comes to Weddings. The two Telugu-speaking Indian states are Telangana and Andhra Pradesh. Even though some traditions are region-specific, most of the rituals explained in this blog are shared between both states. All the ceremonies before and post the wedding are as important as Muhurtham Day. For this reason, a Traditional Hindu Wedding can go on for 3 to 5 days. But it also depends on how elaborately the families choose to celebrate each ritual. 

Pre- Telugu Wedding Rituals

1. Nischithardham

This is similar to the ‘Roka’ or ‘Sagai’ ceremonies in the northern states. In the presence of family and close friends, the family of the bride and groom finalize their engagement. The parents exchange sweets, jewelry, clothes, and other auspicious items to symbolize their exchange of love. On this day, the families officially accept each other; and the bride and the groom get engaged to be married.

 Pellikuturu/ Pellikodukuni Cheyuta

3. Nalugu

Early in the morning, at a set auspicious time, this ceremony takes place in the respective houses. Nalugu (a mix of turmeric powder, chanaga pindi/besan, and water/ essential oils) is smeared on the bride and the groom. All the close family members and friends participate and apply the nalugu on the face, shoulders, knees, and feet of the bride/groom with tamalapaku/betel leaves.

4. Mangala Snaanam/ Mangala Harathi

This follows a turmeric water shower on the bride/groom. This is done to cleanse the body of the bride and the groom. After the Mangala Snaanam, The elders advise the bride and groom not to step outside the house for anything, except to go to the mandapam (the venue of the wedding). After the Mangala Snaanam, follows the Mangala Harathi. The elders of the house give harathi to the bride and groom (in their respective houses) to rid them of any evil eye. This celebration concludes by noon.

5. Mehendi/ Sangeet

In the late afternoon, Gorintaku/ Mehendi is applied to the hands and legs of the bride/groom. Scientifically, Mehendi releases body heat and helps in regulating body temperature. As the wedding week is full of mixed feelings, the Mehendi plays its role in helping the bride and groom stay calm. Sangeet is celebrated simultaneously, or on the next day. All the family members sing and dance to express their happiness and to celebrate the holy union.

6. Gowri Pooja/ Pradanam

This is a ritual performed only by the bride, on the evening before the wedding day. The bride offers her prayers to Goddess Gowri, who is the symbol of fertility and motherhood. Following the Gowri pooja, the groom’s mother and sister gift the bride with jewelry and a Muhurtham saree.

Wedding Rituals

1. Ganapathy Pooja

The groom enters the Mandapam/venue before the bride. The bride’s brothers and maternal uncles receive the groom at the entrance and lead him toward the stage. The groom then performs the Ganapathi Pooja on the stage. According to Hindu tradition, Lord Ganesha receives the Prathama Vandana/ the first salutations. He is the Vignaharta/ remover of obstacles. Thus, on the day of the wedding, the very first ritual is to invoke Lord Ganesha’s blessings.

After the Ganapathy Pooja, the bride enters the venue accompanied by her family. As her parents lead her toward the stage, her maternal uncles hold a cloth between her and the groom. This is called the Terasala (‘tera’=screen). Until the muhurtham time, the bride and the groom are not to see each.

2. Kanyadanam and Panigrahanam

Kanyadanam is the ritual wherein the parents of the bride officially give away their daughter to the groom. With the terasala still between them, the parents of the bride wash the groom’s feet. This ritual is symbolic. The groom symbolizes Lord Vishnu who will soon marry the bride who symbolizes the Goddess Laxmi. After this, the bride’s parents place the bride’s hands in the groom’s hand. This ceremony is called the Panigrahanam. By taking the bride’s hands into his own, the groom promises the bride and her family to be by her side through the ebbs and flow of life.

3. Jeelakara Bellam

This is the most important ritual of the wedding. On the sumuhurtham (the auspicious wedding time), the bride and the groom apply a paste of jeelakaram bellam (a paste made of pounded cumin and jaggery). The significance of this ritual is to promise each other to be inseparable in body, mind, and soul, just as the pounded cumin and jaggery. Amid the loud chants of Vedam and ‘sannai mellam’ (shehnai), the bride and the groom press this paste on top of each other’s heads, and simultaneously the Terasala is removed. The elders and other family and friends sprinkle akshantalu (turmeric rice) over the bride and the groom.

4. Mangalasutram Dharana

Immediately after the Jeelakara Bellam, the bride and the groom are asked to change into the Madhuparkam. This is the white/cream-colored attire with red/green/yellow border. While the bride and the groom get ready in their respective rooms, the pandit places the mangalasutram on a coconut and passes it amongst the family members for blessings. When the bride and the groom return, the groom ties the mangalasutram or thaali (a sacred yellow thread smeared with turmeric with 2 gold pendants in the middle called Sutralu). The groom ties three knots, each representing Manasa (thoughts), Vacha (speech), and Karmana (action). This particular ritual also signifies the union of the two souls physically, mentally, and spiritually. The yellow thread is replaced with a gold chain on the 16th day after the wedding.

5. Talambralu

This is like a fun break between two main events. For this ritual, the bride and the groom shower each other with turmeric rice. The first 3 times are significant, after which it turns into a game. The families too get involved and try that help their person win and pour more rice over the other.

6. Dandalu

After the talambralu, the bride and the groom exchange flower garlands expressing their acceptance of the other as their life partner.

7. Metalu and Nalla Pusalu

At this moment, the maternal uncle of the bride adorns her second toe of both legs with a Metalu/ silver toe ring. In some traditions, the groom does this instead of the uncle. After the metalu, the groom adorns his bride with nalla pusalu/ a necklace made of black and gold beads. This nalla pusalu is to avert the evil eye.

8. Sapthapadi

This is synonymous with the Saath Phere in the traditions of the northern states. Each of the seven steps has a distinct meaning. These seven steps are walks around the homam/ holy fire. The first 3 rounds are led by the groom and the next four by the bride. As they walk these seven steps, they promise each other nourishment, togetherness in both joy and sorrow, wealth, strength, to care for their parents, care for their children, and to remain friends forever.

9. The Ring Game

This is yet another ice breaker, not just for the couple but for the families as well. For this game, a gold ring is dropped into a pot, full of turmeric water. The bride and the groom put their right arms to find the ring. The first one to find the ring two out of three times wins. To make it interesting, you can also put one gold and silver ring, and the game is the person who finds the gold ring twice wins. The game is a healthy competition that also depicts who will have the upper hand in the marriage, the bride or the groom.

10. Arundhati Nakshatram

After this friendly game, the pandit takes the couple out of the mandapam. Here the groom points at the Arundhati Nakshatram. Arundhati Vasistha represents an ideal couple, and by pointing at this star, the groom promises the bride an ideal life.

11. Appagintalu

The final ceremony of the wedding day is when the bride officially leaves her maternal home with her husband. This is an emotional time for the girl’s family.

Three Day Wedding Rituals In Tamil Gounder Community:
The Tamil Kongu Vellalar kalyanam (wedding) is commended for three continuous days. The Multi-day Wedding Rituals in Tamil Gounder Weddings

Naal Virundhu: It is the primary day of marriage - a dining experience is facilitated by the close family members (cousins, uncles, aunties, and grandparents) of the lady and lucky man. This is particularly for the lady and man of the hour families to praise the wedding and make a cordial environment between the close family members of the two sides. They help in marriage game plans, for example, the erection of the pandal (transitory shed), the styling of the spouse by the Kudimagan (Barber), and a conventional wedding declaration by pounding the drums happens. The drum thumping in the previous days was finished by the Kudimagan who might stroll through the town making the declaration to all. These days this sort of declaration is not set up. It exists in certain towns yet the metropolitan group doesn't rehearse it any longer.

Muhurtha Kaal: The lady's family members make courses of action for the wedding like building and enriching the muhurta pandal, cutting kindling, and cooking. The Muhurtha Kaal (pandal) is raised by three Arumaikaarars (Kongu Vellalar people group of older folks) with the assistance of the Vannaan (Washerman). This shows that the wedding service will happen the following day. Uproarious music by the Paraiyars (performers) adds a bubbly vibe to the day.

Muhurtham: The third day has the main wedding ceremonies for the Tamil Gounder people group. The lady and the husband-to-be will wear conventional dresses and play out the center service sitting on a stage. The husband-to-be will tie the thali or the Maangalya around the neck of the lady, Mangala Vadyams (promising instruments) are played by Paraiyars (individuals from the paraiya segment of the local area who play musical thumps on their customary enormous drums) during the thali tying function. The music by the Paraiyars guarantees that every single individual going to the wedding function is associated with the happenings at the wedding, particularly during the muhurtham. Then, the love birds trade festoons which complete the wedding customs. Numerous marriage ceremonies like the Tharai Varthal (a dad giving over his girl by pouring water in this way moving the privileges of dealing with her to her recently married spouse), Kaappu, and so on.

A Kalyana Virundhu (wedding feast) which is an extravagant veggie food in plantain leaves is served to every one of the visitors after the Kongu wedding customs.

Really god's own country, Kerala Weddings have their appeal. With the sceneries of lovely sea shores, coconut and palm trees, and backwaters, Kerala has something extraordinary put away for everybody. Very much like various backgrounds, Kerala is likewise home to different societies and religions. Among various sorts of customs, one wedding that talks polish and effortlessness is the Nair wedding.

Pre-wedding Functions

Muhurtham
In this pre-wedding custom, the Kundli of the lady and husband to be are matched by the soothsayer to check whether the match is conceivable or not. In the event that the Kundli are a match, a Muhurtham or Muhurtha (a favorable date) is fixed as the big day.

Nischayam

When the horoscope is satisfying, the families fix a commitment date(The Nischayam service also , known as the ring service or Mothiram Maatal,) a customary commitment function denotes the beginning of the lady and lucky man's relationship on a wonderful note. 

Aashirwadam or The Pre-marital Gift

This custom is vital for each Kerala marriage and happens a day prior to the wedding. The direct relations and relatives of the lady of the hour and lucky man go to this service. Getting endowments from dear and senior ones for a blissful and prosperous wedding life is performed. 

Mehendi Service

The wedding Mehendi service is like other Mehendi functions directed across India. As opposed to the customary Mehendi capability, where Henna specialists are brought in to apply sparkling plans, at Kerala Nair wedding functions, the lady of the hour's aunties draw pretty examples on all fours. A henna tattoo craftsman might take up after the underlying customs are finished.

Kudivep 

One of the wedding customs of the Nair wedding called Kudivep is many times acted in the hereditary home of the Lady. Numerous families track down it helpful in playing out the wedding at their home and quit sanctuaries or conference halls making it advantageous for both the families.

Dakshina Kodukkal

This is a wonderful custom which is performed by the lady and the man of the prior hour heading for the wedding scene. They look for favors from the seniors of the home and Dakshina is an image of the older folks' endowments.

Style and Clothing

The lady wears the conventional Kerala Saree for the wedding. The Kerala saree is Kasavu Saree that is plain white with a brilliant boundary that improves the magnificence of the lady inside and out. Obviously, certain individuals may likewise pick to wear unadulterated silk Saree on the D-day as an individual decision.

Gold assumes a vital part in Kerala weddings. The lady of the hour wears everything. This incorporates Mangtikka, wonderful accessories, belt, hoops, and armlet (Baajuband).

Thaalikettu

The ceremonial beginnings by the lady of the hour's family inviting the lucky man's loved ones. The sibling of the lady of the hour washes the feet of the husband to be and accompanies him to the mandap. When the husband to be is situated, a gathering of young ladies convey diyas as the becoming flushed lady strolls in with her companions and separate aunties towards the mandap. A customary and pleasant nadaswaram music plays to invite the lady of the hour. When the lady of the hour is situated serenely close to the lucky man, the minister formally starts the wedding service. Two or three takes a few rounds (pheras) around the sacred fire followed by the husband to be dad giving over the Thaali (Mangalasutra) to the lucky man which he ties around the lady's neck. In customary Kerala Nair Wedding, this function is classified "Thaalikettu".

Pudamuri 

Pudamuri is a wonderful function during which the lucky man gifts his new spouse a lovely silk saree with a shirt on a platter. .The close to home second between the dad and the girl is the point at which he puts her hands in the possession of the lucky man consequently giving over his little girl to her better half. 

Sadhya
A regular Nair wedding Sadhya will comprise of 25 dishes served on a banana leaf. It incorporates rice, pickles, desserts, papad and significantly more.

Gruhapravesh

After marriage the bride starts her new journey with her husband to his house.

In kamma weddings, the wedding chimes would ring when the young lady and the kid would arrive at the period of marriage. The guardians would converse with many individuals and would tell about their kids and that they are looking for a decent soul mate for them.

Kamma wedding customs

In Kamma weddings you will see that there would be commitment service and this would be the first pre wedding function. There would be trade of betel leaves and desserts. Additionally, in kamma weddings there would be different things like Nalagu and Vira Gudi Mokaddum. These are altogether different ceremonies and customs. In this the nails of the husband would be cut by the cleric. In the later custom the lucky man needs to implore the legends in the sanctuary who were bold and adequate throughout everyday life. We frequently don't get appropriate thoughts regarding what the wedding custom would mean. Youngsters can accept assistance of grannies as they are  masters and experienced in such matters. It is truly crucial that when one can comprehend the ceremonies first and afterward follow them. The ongoing age is very new and unique and they truly wouldn't fret when they are shown about the traditions. Kamma's consider the wedding service very hallowed. . Be that as it may, in one way this is actually quite great. This is on the grounds that individuals who might go to the wedding would get to be familiar with the rich culture of the station.

In kanyadaan the guardians of the lady of the hour would play out a puja on the lucky man and this would imply that the husband to be is very much like God. In Kamma marriage  the wedding customs would uncover a great deal about what the sentiments and convictions are. Wedding is the point at which the visitors would come from far off places and be essential for the weddings. This is something particularly normal in the Kamma weddings. It is critical to take note of that Kamma's in all actuality do have confidence in horoscope coordinating and in this manner things would move further solely after the horoscopes of the lady and the husband to be would coordinate. Additionally, in kamma weddings there would be other things like Nalagu and Vira Gudi Mokaddum. These are very different rituals and customs followed by them.

A wedding is perhaps the happiest event that occurs in a Brahmin family in Kerala however with regards to the customs of Kerala Marital, various ceremonies are to be followed. Whether it is the group of the lady or the man of the hour, the two of them focus on the custom of the wedding other than the pleasure that happens. Following Nakshatra Porutham or the planetary place of the stars in the birth graphs of the lady of the hour and the husband-to-be, the date of the wedding has been announced by the cleric. Nonetheless, the ceremonies of the Brahmin wedding are empowering to be sure. 

Wearing the blessed string: This is the event that denotes the commencement of the wedding and a heavenly string is tied around the wrist of the lady in her home which is likewise called Vratham. The string gives her protection from evil forces. For the husband-to-be, this event is commended with the invocation of Gods.

Coming To The Mandap: The brother of the bride garlands the groom and welcomes him with sweets, clothes, etc. After the fruition of these customs, the lucky man goes to the stage on the mandap in which the other ceremonies are performed. 

Sanyas Or Grihastha: This is an important occasion in Kerala Matrimonial and important for the Brahmins. During this ceremony. The groom pretends to leave for Kashi but when pleaded with by the family of the bride decides to return to the mandap which is also called Kashi Yatra. During the entire part, the groom has to wear the panchkotam or traditional attire.

Giving away the bride and touching her: The ceremony is performed in which the bride sits on the lap of her father before she is officially handed over to the groom is also called Kanyadanam and then a piece of turmeric is tied around the wrist of the groom which gives him the right to touch her and is also known as Kankana Dhaarana.

Tying the Mangalasutra: The holy occasion is to tie the Mangalasutra around the neck of the bride which is carried out at specific hours and the ceremony in which the bride and the groom hold each other’s hand is also called Paani Graharam.

1. Walking seven steps: This occasion is called Sapthapadi in which the bride and groom walk around the fire with seven steps and it is only after this that the wedding is considered complete.
2. Offerings to the fire: two parts of the homam take place around the fire. While Pradhana Homam is paying homage to the Agni, the Laja Homam is offering puffed grains to the fire which is given to the bride by her brother.

After the completion of these ceremonies, the Brahmin bride and groom prepare to leave the house of the bride for Grihapravesham which begins a new chapter in their lives.

Nadar weddings are intricate celebrations exclusively set for families. It has all the elements of pomp and showiness where the families enjoy quality time. Several pre-wedding, wedding, and post-wedding ceremonies are scheduled in a Nadar wedding. 

The very first pre-wedding ritual in a Nadar wedding is a Garland-wearing ceremony where the groom’s family visits the bride’s house carrying a beautiful flower garland for the bride. They also carry jewelry, clothes, and sweets for the bride. If the groom’s mother is not present, his sister will perform all the rituals.

The female members of the groom’s family deck up the bride with amazing flower garlands. The elders will then shower vermillion on the bride, and the families exchange gifts and other valuables, which represent their consent to the marriage. In the Nadar wedding ceremony, the wedding attire has great significance. For instance, this Pattu Kattuthal Ceremony is an honor to the bride by the groom’s family, where she is gifted a beautiful silk saree, especially from Kanchipuram (Kanjeevaram). During this ceremony, the bride is blessed by all the elders and applies Kumkum /(vermillion) As part of the Nadar wedding ceremony, a gold-melting ceremony is held at the groom’s residence. This is an interesting occasion where a traditionally designed ‘Thali’ (sacred thread for tying the knot) is gifted to the bridegroom. The bride’s family also participates in this ritual by putting a small piece of gold on the ‘Thali.’ A skilled goldsmith will be designing the Thali after a special prayer session. Once the puja session is completed, he walks out of the house with a minute piece of gold from the Thali, and a female member along with her child accompanies him to the door as the woman with her child is believed to be auspicious.

A couple of puja ceremonies are held as part of any Nadar wedding ceremony. The first one happens after the gold-melting ceremony. In this ritual, a palmyrah stick is worshipped after it gets smeared with a paste of turmeric and vermillion. It is then tied with mango leaves. A vessel filled with rice is kept in front of this stick. An older woman from the family then takes the vessel to measure the rice.

Another puja ceremony is held before the wedding date two to three days, to be exact. In this ritual, both families participate in seeking blessings from the Almighty and their ancestors. This is done for the couple to have a great life ahead.

The engagement ceremony is celebrated a day before the actual wedding date in the Nadar wedding ceremony. During this ritual, the couple exchange rings in the presence of close relatives and friends. They are also supposed to exchange pre-wedding vows, which are considered auspicious.

The wedding rituals begin with the bride and groom’s maternal uncles garlanding their nephews with beautifully set flower garlands. They bless the couple by putting vermillion on their forehead. The women members from the groom’s family then give the bride a new saree which she is supposed to wear during the wedding ceremony. Like in every Hindu wedding ceremony, this is the most auspicious ceremony in Nadar weddings as well. The priest will hand over the bride’s sacred thread, which he will tie around the bride’s neck. The groom performs this ritual after seeking blessings from all the elders present during the function. Then happens the Vilakku Darshan ceremony, which is performed by the groom’s brother. The bride’s mother then offers the couple milk and a banana. This is one interesting Nadar wedding ritual in which the couple gets smeared with special oil by the families’ elders. After completing the wedding rituals, the bride emotionally says goodbye to all her family members. The parents of the bride and her relatives bless the couple by throwing rice on them.

Wedding customs

Marriage Customs:

The lucky man's best option is to attach the conjugal bunch with his sister's or maternal uncle's girl. Or the consequences will be severe, when a union is fixed a commitment is fixed at the lady of the hour's home. At this Nichadartham or commitment function, a commitment arrangement is drawn up by the pujari and given to the two families. The following especially followed by this local area in the approach the marriage is that the lucky man's family will contribute some gold for the creation of the lady's hallowed "thali" or Mangalasutra. In the meantime, the pujari will pick a favorable date for the wedding.

Marriage Pandal:

There are numerous customs to be seen while building the marriage pandal or the bloomed shelter under which the wedding service is performed. A lot of mango leaves are tied on a bamboo stick covered with turmeric glue and red earth. Ghee and coral stone are set inside an opening, which is dug, and milk is poured on top of the bamboo stick. The stick is fixed into the opening even as cups loaded up with grown gram are put before the shaft and permitted to sprout. They have a service to illuminate the elderly folks about the marriage with the couple situated on palm leaves.

Enrollment in the marriage: 

The guardians of the two families register the marriage subtleties in their separate family sanctuaries three days before the marriage. There are various ceremonies, which must be seen before the real wedding. They are the: Padaipu or precursor love in which food is prepared and proposed to the predecessor and afterward eaten by the family.

Manai Poduthal: 

Development of the block stage in which wedded ladies with the assistance of a bricklayer will situate the couple during the wedding

Arasanikkal: 

The bamboo stick which was enhanced before is tied before the marriage stage

Hanging and lighting a light: 

A light is hung and lit close to the bamboo stick

Mattru Kattuthal: 

The defensive material covering is made for the marriage stage as the homes are improved with kolam.

The lucky man's family gets the holy thali, and the festoons from the sanctuary are given to the lady of the hour's loved ones

Minji: 

The husband-to-be's maternal uncle embellishes the nephew's feet with toe-rings and gold pendants hung together for the lucky man's favorable jewelry. The lady is likewise enhanced with adornments from her family members

Pooram Kazhithal or the virgin shower: 

The lady is washed and enhanced with brilliant chains.

Thumbu Pidithal: 

The presence of the divinities is summoned through kolam designs

Azhagu Arati: 

The husband-to-be is said goodbye by his fatherly grandma with an arati. The lady's family likewise brings gifts, the thali, and a ring on a platter and leads a parade to his home. The man of the hour is then accompanied to a Ganesha sanctuary before he continues to the marriage scene

Poovai Arithal: 

The lady joins the lucky man before her home

Bhagavanam: 

Kappus or arm bands are tied on the wrists of the couple Arimna Iduthal or grown grains are showered on the couple.
Poomanam Iduthal or a custom where the couple is honored by contacting their wrists, elbows, and shoulders with blossoms dunked in milk

Saptapathy: 

In several circles the sacrosanct fire multiple times even as the pujari drones the marriage customs. The older folks favor the thaali and the Thiru Pootuthal occurs. In this, the husband-to-be ties the taali around the lady's neck two times, and his sister firms the third bunch up. The couple trade festoons multiple times and take the favors of the seniors.

Isaivu Pidimanam: 

The dads of the lady and the husband consent to the marriage arrangement made by the pujari. The couple is authoritatively hitched now. 

Post-Wedding Functions

Thirupootu: 

The lady is invited into her conjugal home with a straightforward custom including seven cups on a platter loaded up with organic products, betel leaves, turmeric, sacrosanct debris, rice, salt, tamarind, and cotton. While the lady likewise plays out the pada puja by washing her mother by marriage's feet.

Kalyanavevu and Mamavevu: 

Lady of the hour is given gifts by her maternal uncle.

Manavarai: 

The couple is honored and the lady of the hour is started into her conjugal obligations.

The Turmeric Shower: 

The ceremonial oil and turmeric shower for the couple.

Kulam Vazhum Pillai: 

Family obligations are given over the lady in a custom including a little silver sculpture of a child in a water pot and the enhancing the lady with a bangle by the man of the hour's mom

Thumbu Kattudal: 

Tying of the marital string on the lady of the hour and she is taken care of with food from her mom's home. Seeing family members eat leafy foods and they additionally hand over their gifts to the couple. 

Kaichi Uttrrudal: 

The blowout is facilitated by the lady of the hour's family to pay tribute to her conjugal family. After every one of the capabilities is finished, the lady of the hour's dad eliminates the Arasanikkal and takes the fledglings shrouded in a silk material to a close by tank or lake and drenches them. This custom is performed to a conch and imprints the finish of the conventional Chettiar Wedding.

Customs before the wedding

The primary thing in Pillai families is that the girl is found out if she is prepared for the wedding. If she is ready, they will announce among their relatives that they are looking for a groom for their daughter. In modern families, they follow all the customs. At these weddings, there is a settlement to be chosen and fixed. At the point when they are fixed they are kept as records. The lady of the hour is supposed to be given adornments and money too alongside different gifts. According to the monetary condition, things can be taken up by the lady of the hour's loved ones.

There are other functions like mehndi and haldi which are conducted grandly. The food varieties served at these capabilities and weddings are simply amazing. At the wedding, there would be numerous customs. Be that as it may, there must be Gauri Puja not long before the wedding. There is great importance in this. It is accepted that every one of the disasters would go off when such a puja is performed.
 when the wedding is fixed, there would be a shaft to be worked at the lady's home, which ought to have some mango leaves on the top. This would show that there is a wedding in this house.

Before the wedding, there would likewise be things like commitment. Commitment is something that will truly be very energizing. At the wedding and the commitment to the lady and the man of the hour ought to wear something credible. The lady of the hour can wear a sari and the lucky man needs to wear something like a dhoti. There are astonishing food varieties to be served at the wedding. You will truly adore the sort of food sources that are served.

In Pillai marriage, one can see that even the farthest of the family members come and go to the wedding. Accordingly, the number of individuals would most likely be more. Pillai individuals are essentially conventional.   Even marriages in an exotic location are magnificent. They are commended well and extravagantly In this, we will see that as soon as the wedding is fixed, there would be a pole to be built at the bride’s house and that should have some mango leaves on the top. This would indicate that there is a wedding in this house. Before the wedding, there would also be things like engagement. Engagement is something that will be quite exciting. At the wedding and during the engagement the bride and the groom should wear something authentic. The bride can wear a sari and the groom has to wear something like a dhoti. There are amazing foods to be served at the wedding. Pillai individuals are fundamentally customary. Indeed, even picturesque marriages are great. They are praised well and with pomp and circumstance. This is the appeal of Indian weddings.

In Badagas, both the bride and the groom have equal rights. With the elder's permission, the wedding is initiated. Dowry is unthinkable for them. Thali was alien to them, but these days to identify their association with outsiders, they use "Thali". The wedding is initiated by a ritual called "Holding the right hand". On the wedding day, the Spouse's party of five individuals visits the young lady's home late at night. The residents and the friends and relatives collected there would invite them. The visitors wash their legs and mouth and enter the young lady's home. Indeed, even before drinking some water in that house, the visitors would ask the young lady's folks for their assent for the marriage. Whenever consented, the young lady is approached to come before the seniors and give her eagerness. Just on getting the young lady's assent, the conventional jewelry called 'Ungaramani' and the oldest woman of the Husband's party attaches it to the neck of the Lady of the hour. Then, the delegate of the kid would pay the affirmation cash of Rs (200) 200 just, across the board rupee coins.

Before the wedding day evening, the Spouse's party of five individuals will be shipped off to the lady's place and remain there. Early morning, the following day, the party will lead the Lady and her family members to the Groom's home. When the lady of the hour goes into the Spouse's home, the mother by marriage invites her little girl in regulation by offering water for cleaning her feet, then, at that point, she would tie the 'malai mani' an ordinary and essential Badaga trimming made of silver around the neck of the lady of the hour, who is then, allowed to step into the house where elderly folks who have explicit connection would favor her.

A formal milk food is ready and served on an exceptional kind of plate called "katchu ganguva" from which the lady of the hour and two sisters by marriage ritualistically eat a little piece of that food. Then she takes the plate to the house's front yard and washes it.

Then the lady of the hour alongside five sister-parents-in-law goes to the stream and gets new and unadulterated water (as a sign that she has entered upon her family obligations). On arriving at back home, eleven older folks from both sides Masters of the couple would sit in succession before the marriage pandhal on the patio. On the cleaned floor, new gunny sacks are spread and just a bunch of bug nuts and a recognition "kanickkai" Rs 1.25 just is set before eleven elderly folks gathered. The couple then at the same time, bow to touch the feet of every one of the Masters and ritualistically wash their feet, the Masters and the seniors gathered there would favor them in a melody in a regular Badaga way.

Indian weddings are grand and long. Many rituals are to be performed at weddings. In Pillai weddings, many rituals are performed. In Pillai weddings, first parents will ask whether their daughter is ready for the marriage. Then a formal announcement is made among the relatives that they are searching for a groom for her. They follow all rituals and sometimes add more ceremonies to enhance their bonding with relatives. Sometimes people who are financially sound arrange for destination weddings also. At these weddings, there is a settlement to be chosen and fixed. At the point when they are fixed they are kept as records. The lady is supposed to convey gems and money too alongside different gifts. Yet, there isn't anything fixed nowadays. According to the monetary condition, things can be taken up by the lady of the hour's loved ones. Mehendi and Haldi ceremonies are celebrated grandly. Varieties of food are arranged.
At the wedding, many rituals are performed. Gowri Pooja is one of the important pre-wedding rituals performed to remove all evil. A pole is fixed with mango leaves in front of the house to indicate that the wedding will take place.
Before the wedding, an engagement is performed where saree & dhotis are exchanged between the bride and groom's families. Pillai individuals are fundamentally conventional. In any case, modern-day families have accepted traditional wedding ceremonies. Indeed, even exotic and extravagant marriages take place. This is the appeal of Indian weddings.